Do we need: social engineering or social restoration?

Whether it’s:

  • Canada’s Liberal government giving $5 million in taxpayers’ dollars to the UN Population Fund (UNFPA), which supports the use of abortion as a method of birth control
  • the motion at the recent Progressive Conservative Party convention to delete sections of the party handbook that define marriage as a union between a man and a woman
  • the Liberal government’s use of a well-scripted 10-year old child to announce the tabling of legislation on rights for “transgender” Canadians
  • or the lack of respect for due process in trying to push through legislation on euthanasia, during which the Supreme Court of Canada dictated the agenda of the House of Commons

we are taken aback by the dizzying march public and civil servants as self-appointed social engineers and their newstainment media enablers are taking us on.

They want you to believe that this lofty ride is all for the common good.  An apparent frenzy is created around their issue du jour and they proclaim progress.  In fact, what is going on here is an attempt to appease the ego.  This appeasement is detrimental to the following social institutions:

  • marriage between a man and a woman
  • motherhood
  • fatherhood
  • the nuclear family
  • life from conception to natural death

Instead of engineering our institutions to appease the insatiable demands of the ego, we should be restoring the foundations those institutions were built on.

For some countries, the celebration of Father’s Day just ended.  Let’s look at how the foundation continues to crumble under the institution of fatherhood.

Psychology Today reports that North America has become “an absentee father society.”

“The near-total absence of male role models has ripped a hole the size of half the population in many urban areas. For example, in Baltimore, only 38% of families have two parents, …”1

Here’s the norm: a child is born to unmarried parents and the father reneges on his responsibility as father of the child. Or, a married couple with a child divorce and the father is no longer part of his child’s life.

Prof. David Popenoe at Rutgers University says in the article,”… this massive erosion of fatherhood contributes mightily to many of the major social problems of our time…Fatherless children have a risk factor of two to three times that of fathered children for a wide range of negative outcomes, including dropping out of high school, giving birth as a teenager and becoming a juvenile delinquent.”2

A father is a vital role model–equally as important as the mother. “Teenage boys without fathers are notoriously prone to trouble. The pathway to adulthood for daughters is somewhat easier, but they still must learn from their fathers, as they cannot from their mothers, how to relate to men. They learn from their fathers about heterosexual trust, intimacy, and difference. They learn to appreciate their own femininity from the one male who is most special in their lives (assuming that they love and respect their fathers). Most important, through loving and being loved by their fathers, they learn that they are worthy of love.”3

The article points out that daughters and sons learn much from playing with their father.  Such play teaches teamwork and how children can use their abilities to compete.  Children learn how to relate to others, manage emotions and self-regulate.

You can see how not having a father contributes to a boy growing up to be an absentee father.  The article goes on to say: “… the issue of the decline of fatherhood and the problem of the male identity crisis are inextricably intertwined.” Men who grew up without a”specific role model are less able to define their role in society.”4

Reneging on his responsibility to his new nuclear family (notice how dependent one institution is on another), a man reneges on his responsibility to the broader society which becomes scarred by the consequences.  Prof. Popenoe offers this prescription: “to rescue the endangered institution of fatherhood, we must restore our sense of community.”

Alternatively, since some believe that technology is the solution to world’s problems, will someone invent an app to restore fatherhood and four more to save our other irreplaceable institutions?

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1-4 Ray Williams, “The Crisis of Fatherhood,”
http://www.psychologytoday.com, (5 June 2015).

 

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